Winner of the Waldo Salt Screenwriting Award at the 2004 Sundance
Film Festival (for Larry Gross's uncompromising script), "We Don't
Live Here Anymore" would make a fitting companion piece with Neil
LaBute's stinging 1998 drama, "Your Friends & Neighbors." Both films
harshly, but accurately, portray the destruction of two marriages
between adulterous friends, their unfaithful actions stemming not
only from desire and unhappiness but also as a subconscious way of
vindictively getting back at their partners for the mistakes they
have made. "We Don't Live Here Anymore" is knowing and comprehensive
in the large and small details that make up adult relationships, and,
like "Your Friends & Neighbors," is fearless in the way it pushes
forward into darkness even at the risk of revealing the sometimes
very ugly sides of its characters. This two-picture marathon might
not make for upbeat viewing, but they offer challenging rewards for
audiences that stick with them and are never less than fascinating.
Jack (Mark Ruffalo) and Terry Linden (Laura Dern), and Hank (Peter
Krause) and Edith Evans (Naomi Watts), are as different as night and
day when it comes to how they raise their families and handle their
households—the Linden's are loose, scattered, and messy, while the
Evans' are quiet, clean, and orderly—but they do share one similarity:
their supposedly happy marriages are deteriorating under their noses,
and no one seems to be capable of doing anything about it. Trouble,
it seems, has been brewing for these couples for quiet some time,
but, as the film opens, Jack and Edith make a mutual choice to sleep
together that gradually sends all four lives into a veritable free-fall.
Before long, they are sneaking around behind the backs of Terry and
Hank, making excuses to leave so that they can spend time together
in the woods and at motels. One part of them fantasizes about the
danger in getting caught, while the other half is horrified by the
consequences—Edith knows Hank has cheated on her in the past, but
cares for friend Terry enough to regret her betrayal. Meanwhile, Jack
is hungry for something new and different, and doesn't like that homemaker
Terry drinks too much and does little around the house while he works
all day, but isn't prepared to give up his two children and the comfortable
life he has built for himself. When Terry and Hank inevitably discover
the untruth that has been going on between their respective spouses,
Jack's reckless suggestion—that perhaps Terry and Hank should sleep
together in return—puts the strength of their love for one another to the ultimate test.
Based on "Adultery" and the title tale, two short stories by Andre
Dubus (whose "Killings" was adapted into 2001's "In the Bedroom"),
"We Don't Live Here Anymore" is a piercing psychological drama full
of deep-seated wounds and simmering resentment. Director John Curran
is adept at handling the unhealthy human relationships between these
four flawed people; he takes a long look at them without making judgments—it
is up to the viewer to make their own assessments—and refuses to sugarcoat
what in lesser hands might have become a shaggy melodrama. People
make mistakes, Curran and screenwriter Larry Gross (1999's "True Crime"),
appear to be saying, but can what Jack, Terry, Edith, and Hank do
through the course of the film be chalked up to mere weakness? And
no matter how much love may be present between two people, at what
point does a marriage—or any relationship for that matter—move past
the point of no return and become unsalvageable once the damage has been done?
The performances by Mark Ruffalo (2003's "In the Cut"), Laura Dern
(2001's "Novocaine"), Naomi Watts (2003's "21 Grams"), and Peter Krause
(HBO's "Six Feet Under") are inexorably exceptional across the board,
each one developing a particular and differential character that elicits
both sympathy and empathy in the viewer without having to ask for
it. Ruffalo's Jack makes bad choices without considering what it may
mean for his future and that of his family's and friends', steaming
carelessly forward until things start crashing down around him. Dern's
Terry takes out her anger toward husband Jack through fights and yelling
matches because she knows no other way to handle her insecurities,
but there is a quieter sadness Dern brings to the part that makes
her seem palpably real. Watts' Edith, like Jack, begins her affair
with him heedlessly, but she doesn't put more significance on their
secret trysts than they deserve; even after sex with Jack, she sometimes
can't help reasoning to him that she is doing what she is doing because
Hank never reciprocated her attempts to mend their problems. And Krause's
Hank, a creative writing professor at a nearby university who is having
trouble selling his work, takes his own actions and those of his wife
with a grain of salt. While hanging out with friend Jack, Hank isn't
above admitting that sex outside a marriage for mere carnal gratification
is something he does on occasion, and never regrets as long as there
aren't any real emotions involved.
With the exception of a couple confrontations and minor character
actions that strike one as a little forced (most of them are, indeed,
seamlessly plausible), "We Don't Live Here Anymore" is a highly charged,
poignant study of the imperfections within human nature and the frailty
of otherwise powerful love relationships. The diverse children of
both couples—Jack and Terry have a playful young son (Sam Charles)
and daughter (Haili Page), while Edith and Hank have a somewhat lonely
daughter (Jennifer Bishop) around the same age—are also written with
a touching depth that suggests they are more perceptive than adults
give them credit for and run the risk of becoming emotionally damaged
in the future if their parents don't become more attentive to their feelings.
Sumptuously photographed in what appears to be a luscious, color-strewn,
autumnal New England suburb (but filmed in British Columbia) by Maryse
Alberti (2001's "Get Over It"), "We Don't Live Here Anymore" receives
much of its power by understanding that there are no easy answers
when it comes to what the four central characters are going through.
As the ending arrives, director John Curran leaves the viewer questioning
whether things will get better or worse for all involved. One thing
is for certain, however—they all will escape from the rubble of their
broken lives with a newfound strength they likely never conceived
they were capable of having.
Copyright © 2004 Dustin Putman